Have you ever noticed how contagious negativity can be? We can start out in a good mood but as soon as we get into a conversation with someone in a bad mood, our smile is gone and we are mad at something that someone has done. It may be something way in the past, but it seems to come back to us if we let it back in our thoughts.
I have often wished we could erase all of the bad from our memories and just hold on to the good things we have enjoyed.
All of my life I have heard “forgive and forget.” It is not too hard to forgive but it can be more difficult to forget.
Thank goodness we also never forget the good things people do for us. I can remember kind words spoken to me throughout my life. I can remember people who encouraged me to do things I did not think I could do. Many people seem to have a gift to lift up others.
I have to admit, I also remember the harsh words spoken to me.
I truly believe if we hold on to grudges or bad feelings toward others, it will keep us from enjoying the good things all around us.
We may not have the gift of maintaining an optimistic outlook but a smile and a friendly hello is not a difficult thing to work on.
Last week I did an interview with a young lady at Riverside High School who started a campaign, "Rebels are Positive," throughout her school to create a positive attitude. She wants to encourage her fellow students and the community to focus on positive activities.
I think she has the right attitude and is heading on the right track. We can all be more productive if we can stay positive.
I am not saying keeping a positive attitude is always easy because we all have stresses and woes, but we can set a goal to be less negative and work toward finding the good in all situations.
None of us are perfect so if a friend or acquaintance says something to make us feel bad, instead of getting all down and out, let's try to let it pass. They may be going through something in their lives we are not aware of. We could have taken the comment in the wrong way (maybe we were having a bad day).
At a young age I was taught the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” I am not sure people today are familiar with it. Judging what I hear gets posted on social media, I know it is not practiced enough. If we would actually live by the principle of the golden rule, we would all have a better outlook in our daily lives.
I am going to try to focus on the positive side of life. If I get negative, just tell me to get over it. (I would appreciate it if you will say it in a nice way with a smile.)